In the second part of this topic I want to go over the things that I have tried to beat premature ejaculation, that have not worked or shown signs of success.
With many men becoming so desperate to cure their premature ejaculation, there are many products on the market that seek to cash in and take advantage. Most products of this nature do not work at all and have no research or facts to back them up either. I dread to think of the amount of money and time that I’ve wasted over the years.
Like most, the first options that I went for were the easiest and quickest. I went online, had a quick look around, and found various ‘numbing sprays and creams. A few days later they arrived and was excited to give them a go at the thought it would be the miracle cure! That excitement quickly faded when I realised they were not only super impractical but also just didn’t really work for me. They were messy, the smell was awful and I didn’t like the sensation of literally having no sensation! One time my partner also got an unintended dose which made the whole experience less pleasurable for her too. I’d definitely say give them go as you may get on better than I did but, for me personally, they were a cure crossed off the list.
After that I started to look into the different types of techniques that can be used. One that everyone has heard of is the ‘distraction’. In essence, you simply occupy your mind with something else before you reach the point of no return. I learned the hard way that this is much easier said than done and unfortunately had no progress with this method.
Masturbating before sex is another common one. While this does indeed offer some small benefit. I personally found that it dropped my libido too much. When your in the mood and then you masturbate, you are no longer in the mood. This became extremely frustrating so I didn’t stick at this technique for very long.
There is a back story as to why I gave up very quickly when it came to kegel exercises. I learnt all about them, how to perform them etc and the extra control they give over the ejaculatory muscles. This was great until I then realised that I was actually performing involuntary kegels during sex and, this actually CAUSES premature ejaculation. It’s kind of like you are trying to ejaculate without realising and your muscles are tensed. There is an exercise to perform a REVERSE kegel which I then changed to.
In conclusion there are many, many products on the market to beat premature ejaculation but not all of them will work. What works for me will not necessarily work for you as the cause of premature ejaculation differs between people. My advice would be to give everything a go at least once to get an idea of what will work for you and is therefore worth pursuing.